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Thursday, 27 August 2015

Oh Mothers of Today

Oh Mothers of Today!‎

In the Name of Allaah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 

"And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship...." Q46:15

"The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling" Q2:233
A mother is obliged to look after, breastfeed and nurture her child and this is inherent in all mammals from the beginning of creation.

We live in an era where most of the mothers of today deny their children the motherly bond that nurtures them to become adults with a natural disposition to love, care, respect and honor their mothers.

Today's mothers will prefer to express their motherly milk in a bottle for their children than to breastfeed them because of other commitments. 

The greatest bond between any two persons is that of a nursing mother and her child.

What a generation and what a sway from the natural instinct that mothers of today express and store their milk.‎

Today's mothers will prefer to leave their children at the mercy of the housemaids rather than carrying the baby themselves even when they are at home and this deactivates the natural bond between a mother and her child that comes as a result of their bodily contacts.

Today's mothers are more possessive over their handbags than they are over their children. They can afford to leave their child in the hands of a housemaid and would not contemplate leaving their handbags with the same housemaid.

The child being exposed to the bond of various housemaids regularly substituted before attaining adolescence grows up with a confused personality not knowing who to real bond with leaving their mothers hanging showing little or no regards for them as mothers.

When the innocent child is crying desperate for motherly attention, most at times the mother responds through proxy by asking the housemaid to pamper the innocent crying child. 

Naturally, the baby will stop crying but alas! A great percentage of motherly bond and sentiment is lost causing a natural detachment between the child and the mother.

Yet, we are faced with another monster that nurtures and shapes the mindset of the children and that's the Internet and the television programs and TV games. 

The media is taking over the life of the children and they follow the media more than they follow their mothers. They simply suffer from "media saturation".‎

The M2 generation!  ‎

A survey suggested that that children between the ages of 8-18 spend nearly 7 1/2 hours a day on the screen.

We call upon the mothers of today to cherish their motherhood.
The best thing you can do to your child is to love the child nay to bond with the child in his formative years spending more time with the innocent defenseless child and giving the child adequate attention needed.

The absence of these breed innocent children into becoming monsters to hunt their parents giving their mothers heart attacks with little or no regards for their parents.

A society that devalues homemaking will surely loose its homemakers.


Save a child today.‎

Thursday, 20 August 2015

Spiritual Awakening toward Tahajjud

In the Name of Allaah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 
"Their sides forsake their beds (for Tahajjud) to invoke their Lord in fear and hope...." Q32:16

It's beyond imagination for a people that live 1400 years after the sun of Islam has risen to fully appreciate how ideal a society the city of Madinah was during the golden era of Islam, when the paragon of Allaah's creations (Prophet Muhammad Pbuh) was in the midst of the most honorable and God-fearing men and women.

It's almost an impossible intellectual exercise to try to create the scenario of the nights of the city of Madinah, when its nights were not lit by even the crudest street lights let alone electric or solar street lights.

By and large, the only source of light at night was the occasional moonlight and the ever present spiritual light that emanates from the bedrooms of the Sahabah conversing with their Lord (Allaah) when the entire creation is fast asleep.

There was also the aspect of calmness and tranquility that dominated the nights of Madinah unlike the hustle and bustle nature of our cities today.

This divine calmness was mostly beautified by the melodious sound of the Glorious Qur'an echoing from the walls of the rooms of the Sahabah who fully understood the need to converse with Allaah in the depth of the night. 

For this exceptional virtue, the likes of Abu Ruqayyah Tameem ibn Aus Ad-Daari's (may Allaah be pleased with him) name is synonymous to Tahajjud (late-night prayers) and his love for the Qur'an. 


I encourage you through the Flawless Words of Allaah "Their sides forsake their beds to invoke their Lord in fear and hope..." Q32:16 to enliven your nights with Tahajjud even if it's with two Rak'ahs.‎

Saturday, 15 August 2015

The Islamic Marriage vs Societal career schizophrenic

In the Name of Allaah the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
 “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought”. Qur’an chapter 30:21.
Conventionally, marriage is a game of choice but in Islamic context, it is an important necessity strongly encouraged for every Muslim regardless of status, wealth and power, in short, it is raised on such a high pedestal as half of faith and prescribed for all believing men and women.
In fact, the creation of the first man and woman depicts what is obtainable as foundational root of sea of societies and equally as coat and gown that constitute existence and multiplication of people’s norm, with the objective of occupying the earth generation after generation.
And since the norm of striking a balance between society and peoples’ affairs is marriage, it must be understood in a true form or else, it would pose a vacuum of peril as seen in the world today.
Because of the conflicting ideology from the conventional world view of marriage, a game of choice, that has seeded well across the universe as passed on from one generation to next, the traditional institution of marriage is being threatened by other priorities which have opened doors for excessive career pursuit among innocent People (man and woman) at the detriment of promoting blissful marital life and ‘ideal’ homemaking.
According to Wikipedia, career stands in the Oxford English Dictionary in three phases, one as a person’s “course or progress through life (or a distinct portion of life)”. In this definition career is understood to relate to a range of aspects of an individual’s life, learning and work. Career is also frequently understood to relate to the working aspects of an individuals’ life e.g. as in career woman. A third way in which the term career is used to describe an occupation or a profession that usually involves special training or formal education, and is considered to be a person’s lifework. In this case “a career” is seen as a sequence of related jobs usually pursued within a single industry or sector e.g. “a career in law” or “a career in the building trade”.
It is Wallah no secret that the dominant aspiration in the life of every young man is to ultimately find a suitable spouse and to secure a healthy income, the dilemma however is which one comes first; do I get married and then make money or do I study, graduate, do my internship, make my money hopefully I will attract a better fish.
But then the question is; can I resist the temptation of a woman for such a prolonged period of time? I’m afraid the answer is NO; the chances are strong that I’m going to pursue an illicit relationship during my stay at the campus or at a tertiary institution which will inevitably land itself into a host of evils.
There comes about career and every other aspects of homemaking suffers tremendously. Hence, the need to create a balance between homemaking and material pursuit. The objective of marriage is to put an end to depression and not to start it as Allaah says in Qur’an chapter 30:21 “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for people who give thought”.
Forgive me if I come across crudely, you might find my tone to be somehow militant but by Allaah, nothing ulterior is intended other than to remind myself first and you of the marital dangers looming in the horizon as a result of our actions.
It is the unadulterated system of Allaah that, whenever He prohibits a thing, He closes all the avenues that lead to it. The same holds true in all that He has allowed for us. He makes clear all the paths that make it easy.
Undoubtedly, man and woman were created by Allaah to worship Him and in doing so, they need to procreate in order to fulfill His promise of making humans’ inheritors of the earth, generations after generations.
The process of procreation was legitimized for us by Allaah through the institution of Nikaah (marriage). Allah says: “Marry women of your choice, two or three, or four, but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then (marry) only one” Surah 4. An-Nisa’ verse 3.
I’m particularly concerned with the nature of how wedding ceremonies are being conducted today by the Muslims. I personally see this as the point of departure between those strangers (Ghuraba) that strive to conduct themselves in accordance with the shariah during wedding periods desperate for Allaah’s blessings and those that are ignorantly living under the shackles of the destructive 21st century civilization desperate for social recognition at the detriment of Allaah’s pleasure.
A people rich in civilization as the Muslims shouldn’t be found wanting in ethics and morals. In recent years, Satan has beautified a repugnant act for Muslims who are on the verge of getting married or even the married ones on their wedding anniversaries. An exposure to the new satanic trend in the form of a series of pictures taken by the would-be partners in an un-Islamic style will shift any man with a sane and balanced understanding from a comfort zone to that of a constant anticipation of Allaah’s wrath.
Innocent people out of ‘marital euphoria’ would do anything just to please the society even if it means going against Allaah’s orders. A true Muslim goes to any length to protect the honor of his women folk but sadly today, we even derive pleasure in displaying our women for the world to admire. Subhanallah!
An authentic hadith on the strength of Ammar (RA) sends a shiver down my spine. The Prophet (Pbuh) said: “A dayyuth will NEVER enter paradise” (Muslim). This is a person who’s not jealous of his women folk. He opposes jealousy and displays his wife for every Tom, Dick and Harry to see and comment as if she’s a commodity. How can my wife’s picture be traveling round the world admired by the good, the bad and the ugly. Insanity I guess.
The competition of a real believer is in good ways not in disobedience. We are trying to outdo one another in sins. Wedding dinner, what’s supposed to be a decent feast and a get-together is now the backbone of everything opposing Allaah’s orders as far as wedding ceremony is concerned. Women in tight outfits, exactly as the Prophet (Pbuh) painted their image, mixing freely with strange men with an accompanied music playing at the background inviting the wrath of Allaah and we have the guts to expect Allah’s blessings in our marriages. What a deliberate contradiction.
Can’t we have a decent marriage? Can’t we think of Allaah’s wrath when planning our wedding events? Are we so blinded and desperate for a 24 hour recognition that we are willing to compromise on our eeman? Who blesses marriages? Is it not Allaah? Or do the people we consider when we disobey Allaah have the key to our marital bliss and righteous offspring? Think and ponder, wallah! If the foundation of our wedding is built on Allaah’s disobedience then don’t blame Allaah or the society when our children become delinquents but rather we should blame ourselves for that wedding based on Allaah’s disobedience.
Don’t we know that for every person that abuses his sight at a dinner function organized by us, is an equal share of sin allotted to us, wise up and use your intellect. Don’t ruin the life of your children yet unborn. The people we threw up a lavish immoral dinner to impress will be the first to broadcast our marital problems when Allaah removes blessings in our marriages. So decide who to please now.
There’s nothing wrong in men having their exclusive male event in accordance with the shariah (a wedding banquet known as walimah) nor is there anything wrong for women to have their own separate wedding banquet. Hence, we should go for that which pleases Allaah and which guarantees eternal bliss and a happy home.
Until and unless we see marriage as an ‘Ibadah, we will not get the gist. In a hadith the Prophet (Pbuh) said: “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.” Only a pious woman will discourage you from trying to indulge in a wedding ceremony that will invite Allaah’s wrath, so go for her and not the so called 21st century slave who knows nothing beyond the material world, totally oblivious of her Creator.
May our kind Allaah give us partners that will hold us and drag us with utmost care to Jannah not those that know nothing beyond the material world.
The article edition is first published on The Guild.

Wednesday, 12 August 2015

Gains of incorruptible minds

Gains of Incorruptible Minds 
In the Name of Allaah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 

"Is there not among you any upright man? Q 11:78

This was what Prophet Lut (AS) said to his people when almost all of them were guilty of the abominable act of sodomy. It was the norm.
Is not the formative years of a man's life vital to developing an incorruptible mindset such that both his friends and foes will be aware of his guiding principle? 

When a man sets a moral and an incorruptible boundary for himself then even those around him will be careful and selective with their statements and actions less they hurt his incorruptible sensitivity.

It is good to define our moral boundaries and to be serious about it because this in essence will provide a buffer zone against corruption and questionable actions.
Soon our society will start appreciating and rewarding competence and incorruptibility but it‎ takes very long to reap the benefits of being incorruptible in a society where corruption is the norm. But the incorruptible ones triumph in the long run.
I'm yet to see a man more beloved to his people and at the same time feared by his people than a morally upright man.

‎With an incorruptible personality and an uncompromising principles, even the kings and the rulers will confide in you and respect your opinions.

‎The incorruptible might not have mansions and exotic cars but they sure are possessors of peace, contentment, tranquility and stability.

The dangers of not being firm on your incorruptible principle are such that at anytime an offer can be made to buy you out and a real incorruptible man does not have a price.

Military might, financial muscle, nuclear strength, demographic advantage offer negotiating power but of all, moral integrity is the strongest.

I leave you on these three notes:

***For my parents and elders: With an incorruptible leader, our only bargaining power to be part of the government is competence and incorruptible pedigree. 

****For the youth: The success of our future largely depends on the incorruptible moral principles that guide and shape our mindset today.

****For one and all: When we mutually agree to cheat a third party we are equally agreeing to distrust each other.

May Allaah forgive our hidden and apparent sins.

Friday, 31 July 2015

Where worthy race ends

In the Name of Allaah the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 
Allaah says in Qur’an chapter 102 Surat At-Takathur verses 1-2 that; “The mutual rivalry (for piling up of worldly things) diverts you, Until you visit the graves (i.e. till you die)”
Undoubtedly, a toddler looks up to his toys as his worldly passion as long as it satisfies the desire, brings entertainments, just as his parents would obviously look onwards to bigger dreams of accomplishments through the night and in the morning, all these race for different endeavors coupled with a sound intellect has got to be one of the greatest gifts on earth.
And Allaah says; “And whoever is grateful, truly his gratitude is for (the good of) his own self; and whoever is ungrateful (he is ungrateful only) for the loss of his own self). Certainly, my Lord is Rich (Free of all needs), Bountiful. Qur’an 27v40.
Today, in this world of ours, people are competing and racing with one another towards amassing material things; wealth, mischief and many confused goals.
Whereas Allaah says in Qur’an chapter 102 Surat At-Takathur verses 1-2 that; “The mutual rivalry (for piling up of worldly things) diverts you, Until you visit the graves (i.e. till you die)”
Many on the wrong path are energetic while those on the right path are lethargic and dazed.
Although, envy is seriously condemned in Islam but there is a hadith recorded by Imam Al-Nawawi in his book called “The Meadows of the Righteous” popularly known by its arabic name “Riyad-us-Saliheen” that on the strength of Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (Radiya Allaahu anhu) the Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Envy is permitted only in two cases: A man whom Allaah gives wealth, and he disposes of it rightfully, and a man to whom Allaah gives knowledge which he applies and teaches it,”
The Arabic word used in the hadith is ‘Ghibtah’ the equivalent of which cannot be found in English language, and the meaning of which is to wish to enjoy things which others have, such as wealth and knowledge, without wishing that they should be deprived of them to your exclusive benefit. Ma shaa Allaah to those who possess Ghibtah as opposed to the corrosive envy.
It is upon this that I base my write-up. I urge you to kindly follow me and let us take a cool ride through the world of the Glorious Qur’an and have some interesting stop overs that will spur us to a worthy race.
The worthy race in the context of most human could be political, sport driven, or societal driven, including inventions, but the Qur’an’ic context in Surah Al-Ma’idah verse 48, which says in Arabic; “Fastabiqul khayrat”  translated as “in good ways, compete with one another” stated boldly a definite race towards good only which is contrary to human understanding of race.
It is not about running from pillar to post without a positive purpose it is more than that as can be deduced from Ibn Katheer’s explanation of the above verse that described it as ; (so strive as in a race in good deeds) which are obedience to Allaah, following His Law that abrogated the laws that came before it, and believing in His Book, the Qur’an, which is the Final Book that He revealed.
In another part, Qur’an chapter 57 Surah Al-Hadid verse 21, and Allaah says; “Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord (Allaah) and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heaven and the earth prepared for those who believe in Allaah and His Messengers.”
Meanwhile, Musnad of Imam Ahamd had it recorded with authenticity that the Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Paradise is nearer to any of you than the strap on his shoe, and so is the (Hell) Fire.”
Also in Qur’an chapter 3 Surah Al-Imran verse 133 Almighty Allaah says; “And march forth in the way (which leads) to forgiveness from your Lord, and for Paradise as wide as the heavens, and the earth, prepared for those who have Taqwa (piety).
An apt example from understanding of noble Companions (may Allaah be pleased with them) of RasulAllaah (may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about the race, is that they would race with one another in good deeds and not in Allaah’s disobedience or ostentatious display.
An instance was in the two Sahihs (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) where it was recorded that once the poor emigrants said to the Messenger of Allaah:
“O Allaah’s Messenger! The wealthy people will get higher grades and permanent enjoyment. He (saw) asked: “Why is it that”, They said; “They pray like us and fast as we do. However, they give in charity, whereas we cannot do that, and they free servants (slaves) whereas we cannot afford it.” The Prophet (saw) said: “Shall I tell you of good deed that, if you acted upon, you would catch up with those who have surpassed you and none would overtake you and be better than you, except those who might do the same. Say “Glorious is Allaah,” “Allaah is Most Great.” And “Praise be to Allaah” thirty three times after every prayer. They (the poor emigrants) later came back and said, “Our wealthy brethren heard what we did and they started doing the same. “Allaah’s messenger (saw) said, “This is the favor of Allaah that He gives to whom He wills.
The question is, is this the reality of both the poor and the wealthy of this Ummah? I’m afraid most of the wealthy have ill-gotten wealth hence Allaah will not accept it from them except they repent and return back what rightfully belongs to the public, and the poor is busy thinking of how to become extremely wealthy by any means necessary hence, the two categories are suffering from an amnesia of purpose.
Qur’an chapter 37 Surah As-Saffat where Allaah described in details, the lofty condition of the people of Paradise and crowned it up at the 60th and the 61st verses by saying; “Truly, this is the Supreme success! For the like of this (Jannah) let the workers work, it shows that the race is beyond the usual race that most humans engage in.
And for the purpose of this write-up, Qur’an chapter 83 Surah Al-Mutaffifin is to serve as reminder because Allaah says; “Verily, Al-Abraar (the pious believers of Islamic Monotheism) will be in Delight (Paradise). On thrones, looking (at all things). You will recognize in their faces the brightness of delight. They will be given to drink of pure sealed (wine). The last thereof (that wine) will be the smell of musk, and for this let (all) those strive who want to strive (i.e. hasten earnestly to the obedience of Allaah)- verses 22-26.
Even though human and its environs are surrounded by mother nature with enormous influences, his major thought of how to out race one another in good deeds should be a dominant aspiration, for in that is the Ultimate goal of Allaah’s Forgiveness and Paradise the width of which is as wide as the heavens and the earth, prepared for those who have Taqwa.
Out race one another by responding faster than anyone in a gathering when it comes to donation in the cause of Allaah, reading more of Qur’anic pages than other peers do will also serve the purpose but by all means Ikhlas (sincerity of purpose) should be the pivot, for these noble endeavors would be profitable than investing on a business that its return brings more harms than good.
The worldly and worthy race of every man should include standing up during most part of the night in Tahajjud to increase ones spirituality, as well as being foremost in rejecting any illegal transaction that will make one an instant millionaire devoid of legitimacy.
Also, be the first to shun any glorified betrayal of trust in your nation and extend a pitiful gesture to them rather than a respectful one.
I could go on listing but I guess your intellectual minds will fill in the many gaps of racing towards good. May Allaah equip us with the sufficient zeal to constantly engage ourselves in a healthy spiritual race.